Have you ever felt frustrated trying to get the one you want to want you back? Have you ever felt like the cause was hopeless and there's just nothing you can do to win their heart?Such frustrations are common. All human beings are subject to them. While there is no way to completely avoid them, there is a way to overcome them and find success. The way requires a basic understanding of those principles that motivate the human heart, followed by a patient application of those principles. If you will systematically apply those principles in a well thought out strategy, you will ultimately reap the rewards of your efforts.Applying the principles is up to you, but today I wanted to share with you a few truths relating to love and romance:
· "In Love" is a form of dependency. Therefore, if you want someone to be in love with you, you will have to make up your mind to meet their emotional needs so that they can grow dependent upon you. This includes hundreds of hours of listening to them while they talk while you, for the most part, are just attentively silent.
· People are attracted to independence and repulsed by those who seem to cling. Therefore, to avoid scaring off a potential love you must throw in a lot of apparent aloofness while trying to win them. If you think this may confuse the one you want about your real intentions, you're right. Sorry, but that's just the way it needs to be in the early stages of romance.
· People want what they can't have. Therefore, you have to hold back form giving yourself completely to the one you want at the first indications they're starting to become attracted to you. Instead of giving the dog the whole steak at once, feed it to him/her one bite at a time, over an extended period of time.I'm speaking here of deeply shared feelings and your valuable time. Be careful with how much time and feeling you give to the one you want. As to sexual involvement, that should be withheld until after the marriage vows, or you'll reduce their incentive to get there. Why buy the cow when the milk is free?
· People's conscious decisions are subconsciously motivated. Therefore, don't be too concerned by what the one you want says they think they want, or acts like they think they want. You should act on principle and eventually they'll realize that what they really want is you.
· People are most drawn to a person with a positive and confident self-image. Therefore, resist the temptation to spill your feelings of self-doubt. Nothing is a bigger turn-off than somebody who insists on bursting your bubble and destroying the image they want to have of you.
· People's attitudes are really a reflection of what you think of them. Therefore, while not wearing your heart on your sleeve, you must still prove though your actions that your friendship to them is a committed one. This takes time.
· The longer a relationship grows, the stronger it becomes. Therefore, if you mess up along the way, take comfort in the fact that tomorrow is another day, and the fact that you prove you have lasted and learned from yesterday's hardships, will in itself increase their feelings of commitment to you in the long run.
Monday, December 3, 2007
Friday, November 23, 2007
Secret to winning the one u want !!!
First the product-YOU!
Look your best! The better you look, the better you will feel, and the more desirable you will become to him.If you are serious about finding a husband, then you must change your definition of gratification.Gratification is a man calling you,pursuing you,and asking you to marry him.
Clothes-Men like women who wear fashionable,sexy clothes in bright clothes.Why not please them?Always remember..opposed to clothes that are perhaps trendy but not flattering.Don’t aspire to the unisex look.Also…don’t be a fashion slave.Do everything you possibly can to put your best face forward.Manicures,pedicures,periodic facials and massage should become part of your routine.And don’t forget to spray on an intoxicating perfume when you go out-just don’t overdo it.
Be quiet and mysterious, act ladylike,cross your legs and smile.Don’t talk so much.In addition,don’t sound cynical or depressed and tell long-winded stories of all the people who have hurt you or let you down.Don’t make your prospective husband a savior or a therapist.
And for a single person..don’t shy away from singles events with the rationalization that
“The men who go there aren’t my type.” I you never meet men accidentally, go to everything-parties,ceremony and all outdoor activities.Just go,go,go-show up!
Rule 1
Being a ‘Creature Unlike Any Other’- State of mind
You don’t have to be rich,beautiful,or exceptionally smart to feel this way about yourself.And you don’t have to be born with this feeling either.You need to be an attitude,a sense of confidence and radiances that permeates your being from head to toe.It’s the way you smile,attentively,breath,stand and walk.It doesn’t matter if you’re not a beauty queen,that you never finished college ,or that you don’t keep up with current events.You still think that You’re enough!!! You have more confidence than other professional women.You’re not desperate or anxious.You don’t date men who don’t want you.You tell yourself, “Any man would be lucky to have me,” until it sinks in and you start to believe it.
Look your best! The better you look, the better you will feel, and the more desirable you will become to him.If you are serious about finding a husband, then you must change your definition of gratification.Gratification is a man calling you,pursuing you,and asking you to marry him.
Clothes-Men like women who wear fashionable,sexy clothes in bright clothes.Why not please them?Always remember..opposed to clothes that are perhaps trendy but not flattering.Don’t aspire to the unisex look.Also…don’t be a fashion slave.Do everything you possibly can to put your best face forward.Manicures,pedicures,periodic facials and massage should become part of your routine.And don’t forget to spray on an intoxicating perfume when you go out-just don’t overdo it.
Be quiet and mysterious, act ladylike,cross your legs and smile.Don’t talk so much.In addition,don’t sound cynical or depressed and tell long-winded stories of all the people who have hurt you or let you down.Don’t make your prospective husband a savior or a therapist.
And for a single person..don’t shy away from singles events with the rationalization that
“The men who go there aren’t my type.” I you never meet men accidentally, go to everything-parties,ceremony and all outdoor activities.Just go,go,go-show up!
Rule 1
Being a ‘Creature Unlike Any Other’- State of mind
You don’t have to be rich,beautiful,or exceptionally smart to feel this way about yourself.And you don’t have to be born with this feeling either.You need to be an attitude,a sense of confidence and radiances that permeates your being from head to toe.It’s the way you smile,attentively,breath,stand and walk.It doesn’t matter if you’re not a beauty queen,that you never finished college ,or that you don’t keep up with current events.You still think that You’re enough!!! You have more confidence than other professional women.You’re not desperate or anxious.You don’t date men who don’t want you.You tell yourself, “Any man would be lucky to have me,” until it sinks in and you start to believe it.
To win the heart of someone u love !!
Love as a desire, love as confusion, love as a quick affair, love as a drastic life-changing rebellion, love as a force of habit…
Let me share with you to capture our Mr.Right hearts..Yups..Good News for women overthere !I’ve ‘The Rules’ for you espc..for any woman whose want to win the man’s heart of her dreams.Unbelievable!!ahaks let’s check it out..With this secret about ‘The Rules’ the man will feel crazy about you!!!U want it or not ???..just ask yourself to feel like that…
You want your husband treat you like a queen?A marriage truly made in heaven…Yups sound too good to be true?We were skeptical at first too.Read on !
Men are different from women.Women who call men,ask them out,conveniently have two tickets to a show,or offer sex on the first date destroy male ambition and animal drive.Actually,men are born to respond the challenge!Take away challenge and their interest wanes.
Based of the research,Ellen fein said that this old fashioned formula, but it really works.!Your job now is to treat the man you are really, really crazy about the like the man you are not that interested in-don’t call,be busy sometimes! Do all of this from the beginning-from day one!
Remember!!! Doing what you want to do is not always in your best interest.On a job interview,you don’t act “like yourself”.You don’t eat cake if you’re serious about losing weight ,right?So, you need to be a sacrifice person to have Mr.Right heart,right?heheheh
If he calls and asks you out,yups its true…it’s The Rules.
If you had ever met Melanie,you wouldn’t have thought that she was extraordinarily pretty or smart or special, but you might noticed that she had a way of behaving around men that put prom queens to shame.Melanie did the best with what she had.I’m very sure if you meet a Melanie,especially a plain and simple Melanie,you want to go up to her and ask, “What is it,what are you doing that make men run after you?What’s your secret?What am I doing wrong?Probably Melanie will say that, “Oh, it’s really nothing.”Just practice “The Rules” secret.
Treat the men we wanted like the men we didn’t want.Simple, but not easy,right?Ahaks…
Let me share with you to capture our Mr.Right hearts..Yups..Good News for women overthere !I’ve ‘The Rules’ for you espc..for any woman whose want to win the man’s heart of her dreams.Unbelievable!!ahaks let’s check it out..With this secret about ‘The Rules’ the man will feel crazy about you!!!U want it or not ???..just ask yourself to feel like that…
You want your husband treat you like a queen?A marriage truly made in heaven…Yups sound too good to be true?We were skeptical at first too.Read on !
Men are different from women.Women who call men,ask them out,conveniently have two tickets to a show,or offer sex on the first date destroy male ambition and animal drive.Actually,men are born to respond the challenge!Take away challenge and their interest wanes.
Based of the research,Ellen fein said that this old fashioned formula, but it really works.!Your job now is to treat the man you are really, really crazy about the like the man you are not that interested in-don’t call,be busy sometimes! Do all of this from the beginning-from day one!
Remember!!! Doing what you want to do is not always in your best interest.On a job interview,you don’t act “like yourself”.You don’t eat cake if you’re serious about losing weight ,right?So, you need to be a sacrifice person to have Mr.Right heart,right?heheheh
If he calls and asks you out,yups its true…it’s The Rules.
If you had ever met Melanie,you wouldn’t have thought that she was extraordinarily pretty or smart or special, but you might noticed that she had a way of behaving around men that put prom queens to shame.Melanie did the best with what she had.I’m very sure if you meet a Melanie,especially a plain and simple Melanie,you want to go up to her and ask, “What is it,what are you doing that make men run after you?What’s your secret?What am I doing wrong?Probably Melanie will say that, “Oh, it’s really nothing.”Just practice “The Rules” secret.
Treat the men we wanted like the men we didn’t want.Simple, but not easy,right?Ahaks…
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